Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Christmas and Beyond

Christmas was a wonderful day. Our favorite part was talking with each of our children. We even got some Christmas Eve and Christmas morning photos so we didn't feel left out of the fun of children being excited about opening presents and the joy of family being together and making memories. We opened presents too and loved having new photos and new music and an original DVD to watch. We so appreciate feeling close to our family even when there are many miles to separate us.We had a wonderful Christmas dinner with all of the senior missionaries who live in or near Santo Domingo at the home (big apartment in the patron housing building next to the temple) of the temple president. The mom and two daughters at the table belong to the Santo Domingo East Mission. Their dad is the mission president and the whole family is bilingual. The family history couple are from Mexico and Sister Cairns was born there as well. They put together a wonderful Christmas dinner that we all enjoyed--two kinds of enchiladas, marinated pork, rice, beans, flautas (that is what they called them but they were homemade taquitos to me) and salads along with real salsas and guacamole, flan and sugary fried tortillas for dessert. It was all delicious and made for a very festive time together. Here is a photo of Dad with Elder Bagwell and Elder Babb. They all served in the West Mexican Mission together a very long time ago.
We had two Christmas opportunities this year. Our friend Olgan Sainteluz came to us the week before Christmas. His wife and three children were back in Haiti living with her parents for the birth of her third child. The middle child, a 2 year old little girl, got meningitis and was in a clinic in Haiti with extremely limited care. We gave him enough money to travel to Haiti to bring his daughter back to the Dominican Republic. She was born here and is entitled to medical care. Olgan is in school here, he works at the MTC and volunteers in our PEF call center. He is almost (but unfortunately does not yet have his card) a resident of the DR. He struggles to survive because he can't get a job without residency. The MTC only needs him when they have Hatians there so his income is not steady. He is back now and his daughter is in the hospital here. He said that the doctor told him that it is a miracle she is still alive. We continue to pray that her condition improves, that he can take and pass all of the finals that were given while he was gone and that the process of getting his residency will be finally finished! The Haitians struggle but in spite of (or because of) their difficulties many have amazing faith. The Haitians who come by the bus load to the temple have sacrificed to a level we have no concept of in order to receive their temple blessings. It is a privilege to be in the temple with them, and fun to listen to French when they are the majority. Here is a photo of Olgan:
Our friend, Rosanna, has been working as a volunteer in the Employment Resource Center for months. We hired her to clean our house and pay her well for coming once a week. She left the ERC to take a job but then returned when the business she was working for closed their doors. She comes early and leaves late and gives excellent service for no paycheck. A large department + grocery store has promised her a job in their human resources department when they complete their new location in a month or so. Hopefully that will solve her employment problem. She has been working to help them fill their other 400 openings. The ERC sent over many people recently to take the test to be cashiers and very few passed the test. More non-members than members were hired. We all need to be educated to get good jobs. We are trying to encourage all of the young people here to take advantage of the opportunity to get higher education. Unfortunately many people here are not high school graduates or even literate. We all need to value education more and work throughout our lives to improve our skills and knowledge.Back to Rosanna. She started having headaches several months ago and has been diagnosed as having a brain tumor. She says it is not cancer but it is growing and causing the pain. She took three radiation treatments but stopped for lack of money. She was told she needed six treatments. She has resisted offers of financial help but the pain level is now such that she has given us permission to ask our fellow missionaries to contribute. I think we can raise enough to finish her treatments. We continue to pray that she will know the best thing to do. I am so impressed with her determination to keep volunteering no matter the level of pain. She is there every day, doing all she can to make things better.

For a Christmas gift we offered to take her for a day trip. People with no car and no money do not go anywhere they do not have to go. We told her to bring a friend and we would have a fun day making memories. She chose Sister Cairns and we all had a great day together. The first thing we did was go to the Cueva de las Maravillas. You probably guessed that means Cave of the Marvels. It was beautiful and very interesting. It has been purchased from the government by a private organization and has very well built stairs and railings and lighting and an elevator. A tour guide takes you through and explains the stalactites and stalagmites and rock formations, we saw lots of bats and there are drawings made by the original inhabitants of this island. They are large and simple and look like they were made with a spray can but they assured us that they are original cave paintings. One of the beliefs of the Tainos was that after death a person's head needed to be cut off in order for their spirit to leave the body. Oh, and they were cannibals too. They wouldn't let me take photos in the cave. We drove to the beach in Juan Dolio, then went to La Romana and returned via San Pedro and Boca Chica. We had lunch at Burger King. I took lots of fun photos but I'll only post a couple. Rosanna told us about her conversion. Her mother was Evangelical (that is Spanish, it is also English?) and she went to church all of her life. She never felt completely comfortable there and resisted getting baptized. She mentioned that she wasn't comfortable with how loud and public the prayers were when the whole congregation prayed together. She said that after she was a legal adult she visited a few churches and asked the missionaries when she came across them to tell her about their church. She had the lessons, attended church and asked to be baptized only a couple of weeks later. She said she felt like it was "home" and she was comfortable with the teachings and the people. She has been a faithful member ever since. Her younger brother hassled her but her mother supported her decision to change churches as long as she continued to attend a Christian church. Since then both her mother and her brother have passed away from kidney problems. She never did mention a father. I think the only relative she has is an aunt. I can't imagine not having a big, wonderful family. Thank you to all of you for being a part of mine.These are paper mache masks that will used during Carnival in February. This is a big deal in Spanish speaking countries and usually not a very uplifting celebration.

We visited an artisan center in La Romana. This big chicken and rooster are out in front to attract attention. The rooster is much taller than I am. They make amazing things out of metal and also have a school to teach art skills.

Here is a beach near Juan Dolio:

In Boca Chica we saw these boat racks. This is new to me. Did you know that you could store your boat on a shelf?
We enjoyed our day together and it helped me remember my blessings. As we close one year and begin another one I want to always remember how blessed my life has been and that the Lord is the source of all good things and will help us through the not so good things in our lives.
Thank you for being a good example for me and making this world a better place for all of our brothers and sisters.
Love, Mom/Jeri/Grandma

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Getting Ready for Christmas

Margaret Opal Southworth Pettingill died on December 18th at Joyce's home at age 92. Her 93rd birthday would have been on January 16th. Her funeral will be on Tuesday, December 23rd and Richard will be able to be there to represent our family. She was an amazing woman and we all would do well to learn more about what she has accomplished and try to develop our talents and work with the energy and persistence she demonstrated for 92 years. We will miss you very much.


Life is much simpler when you are on a mission. Our gift giving was never very impressive but it is really simple this year. Immediate family have received their envelopes from Shutterfly and will have a 4 x 6 Christmas from Grandma and Grandpa Pettingill. So we are ready for Christmas.

We haven't gone shopping in the department stores so we haven't seen much in the way of Christmas decorations. On the outside of some large buildings there are some very impressive displays--as in BIG three dimensional trees and bells and swags and star bursts. Christmas merchandising is not a new concept here.

There is a lovely Christmas tree on the second floor in the Institute building and another in the Area Office building.
The doors on our floor are wrapped in wired ribbon. Below is the elevator to our apartment.This is our neighbors tree as seen by us every time we go in or out of our door. They often have their door open. I'm glad because I'm intrigued by an orange Christmas tree. It is not traditional according to what I am used to, but it is very pretty and goes perfectly with their apartment.

This is our Christmas cache although I now have the decals on the windows so we look festive. We'll leave them up so the Walker girls can rearrange them when they come.

We had a fun "dinner party" a week ago. Sister Cairns is a single sister who works in the temple. She was born in the same city Edgar grew up in but has lived in the USA for most of her life. She helps us one morning a week in the call center and we invited her over to dinner and to teach us how to make enchiladas and Mexican rice. The Francoms came and they had another couple as guests who were being trained on their way to Guyana. We all watched and helped with the dinner preparations, enjoyed getting to know the Whiteheads from eastern Idaho and loved our Mexican dinner complete with a very spicy salsa. We had even found some corn tortillas! Thank you Sister Cairns.

Also last week we went to a choral concert. At the last minute I was wondering why we had agreed to go but I'm so glad we did. Another couple was invited to a choir concert at a stake center and they invited us to go and take them because they didn't know where the building was. Turned out to be very fun. It was not the usual stake choir. It was the national choir of the Dominican Republic and though the sound system was awful (they ended up turning it off) they were great! They sang mostly Christmas music which ranged from Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer (in English!) to the Hallelujah Chorus. There were also several obviously Dominican numbers with a traditional drum and a scrapey thing. It looks like a round columnar shaped cheese grater with small punched out holes and the man was actually using a pink plastic hair pick with about 12 long teeth to scrape it! The variety in the program and their enthusiasm was very fun. I didn't take my camera because it was in the chapel (but full all the way back through the cultural hall), but I should have. Everyone was taking photos and clapping and having a good old time. It felt like a Christmas celebration!

Rosana organized another party for the volunteers at the Employment Center. This time we all brought food and a CD for the gift exchange. Rosana gave each person an envelope with the name of another volunteer. We read the meaning of the name of each person (very long and involved and quite funny) and then gave them their CD. At the end they all sang Karaoke songs but we sneaked out, not unnoticed--but they already knew we are not the life of the party type.
Rice and chicken are the popular items here. There were three kinds of rice. Every Dominican eats rice at least two times a day. The chicken was very good. There was also green salad and tomatos and some skewers with grapes and ham and green olives and cheese. I brought brownies which were new to several of them. But they decided quickly that they were good to eat and all disappeared very quickly.


Rosana, Sandra, Elizabeth, Sergo and Milagro Saint Hilaire (She is in charge of the literacy program) There were about 20 people in all.

The other thing we did last week was go to the Christmas devotional for the employees. Domingo invited us to go and we heard Elder Johnson (Area President) and Brother Briggs (DTA-Director of Temporal Affairs) give talks and some musical numbers as well. Elder Johnson stressed how important it is to not let other good things replace the reason we celebrate Christmas. He reminded us that the reason for Christmas is to celebrate the birth of our Savior Jesus Christ and we should not neglect that focus. He said that in their family of six kids they started the tradition of filling a manger with straw in the month of December. Each child was assigned another family member each week in family home evening. Every day, each person was to do a special and secret service. Every time that they did a service they could put a piece of straw in the manger to make a soft comfortable bed for the Christ child who was coming. Putting a doll in the manger and talking about their experiences became an important part of their Christmas celebration. This is President Johnson. His wife's name is Leann.
This is Brother Briggs. He makes Grandpa look short.
There was a lot of scripture reading with President Johnson's talk. This man is reading from his PDA.
Christmas is coming and we are grateful. Grateful for our Savior and for each of you.
Merry Christmas!
Love, Grandma P